Overcome Overwhelm: 10 Questions to Find Out if you’re an Over-Giver

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Despite the historically high level of divisiveness in our world today – there is one thing I think we can all agree on:

We’re overwhelmed!

 

🤦 Overwhelm is Everywhere!

Even before the onslaught of Covid-19, our normal state of being was one of overwhelm.  Working long hours, sacrificing vacation days, little free time to do things that bring us joy.  And how many of us take time to sit in silence to be sure we receive the guidance we need to follow our calling and make a difference in the world?

Female Entrepreneurs & Execs are Overrun with Overwhelm

Many of my clients are female entrepreneurs or executives. In addition to managing their business or career, they typically have children and responsibilities at home that keep them running on a treadmill that never stops. There’s the shopping, cooking, cleaning, laundry, bills to pay, schedules to coordinate…and oh, so much more.  Home schooling anyone?

Add to this the stress of ever-present technology…a barrage of texts and e-mails, social media accounts, and the fear-inducing updates from the news outlets. It’s no wonder our minds never stop, we don’t sleep well, and our to-do list just keeps growing.

 

Giving Back…or Over-Giving? 

When a client tells me she wants to focus more on philanthropy or start giving back through her business, the first question we explore is whether or not now is the right time.

It’s not that I don’t want to encourage women to give. I just want to be sure they’re not “over-giving”. Because we women do have a tendency to do that – and it’s not healthy!

We give to everyone else first – to our families, friends, neighbors, schools, churches, communities, the world. And then we wonder why we’re exhausted, burnt out, angry, and resentful.

As you can imagine, this doesn’t make for good living or good giving. As challenging as it may be to sometimes say “no,” we must remind ourselves that we simply cannot give from empty cups.

 

10 questions to ask yourself to find out if you’re an over-giver…

Does this sound like you?

If so, you might be inadvertently contributing to the overwhelm in your life.

 

1. Do you sleep less than 7 hours a night?

2. Can you remember the last time you took a bath, read a book, or just sat in the silence?

3. Do you have a daily spiritual practice?

4. Do you exercise and eat well?

5. Do you disconnect from technology daily?

6. Are you the go-to person at home or at the office for planning events, birthdays, holiday celebrations?

7. Are you the person the school, church, non-profit, always asks to volunteer because they know you will?

8. Do you stay in toxic relationships or situations because you feel bad about removing yourself from them?

9. Do you have a hard time saying no when asked to do something – even (and especially) if you really don’t want to?

10. Are you having any fun? (Be honest here!)

 

For women who really want to intentionally give…

If a woman is already an over-giver but really wants to become more intentional and strategic with her giving, my question to her is what might she eliminate from her plate?  What does she need to learn to say no to?

What busy work is getting in the way of her life’s work??!!

Now we’re getting into the nitty gritty. Are all the responsibilities really ours to bear? Are the things on our to-do list moving us toward our higher purpose? Are we following our life’s path – or have we taken a detour based on what everyone else wants or expects of us?

This desire she has – to become a philanthropist or humanitarian – to create a giving program for her company and include her team and clients in the effort…This is more than just another thing to add to the always growing to-do list. This is an opening – a doorway – that leads to her destiny if she’ll allow it.

 

She senses a calling from deep within…

She imagines a life that is more relaxed, joyful, meaningful. She wonders what it would be like to have the courage to live differently, counter-culturally even.

If you can relate, then I’m here to tell you there IS something more for you. A way of living that is more fulfilling and purposeful than perhaps you’ve ever permitted yourself to imagine. A way of living that allows you to get off the merry-go-round, write your own story, and make all your dreams come true.

I invite you to explore just what this might look like for you. Need help? I’m here for you…

 

Be Bold. Be Daring. Be AWE-dacious!

Lis